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Never Forget These Things on Your Todo List

I was recently inspired by Paul Graham to add the following 5 commands to the top of my todo list as a reminder for things to never forget:

Don’t ignore your dreams; don’t work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.

Here is Paul Graham’s full post where I took these commands from:

A palliative care nurse called Bronnie Ware made a list of the biggest regrets of the dying. Her list seems plausible. I could see myself—can see myself—making at least 4 of these 5 mistakes.

If you had to compress them into a single piece of advice, it might be: don’t be a cog. The 5 regrets paint a portrait of post-industrial man, who shrinks himself into a shape that fits his circumstances, then turns dutifully till he stops.

The alarming thing is, the mistakes that produce these regrets are all errors of omission. You forget your dreams, ignore your family, suppress your feelings, neglect your friends, and forget to be happy. Errors of omission are a particularly dangerous type of mistake, because you make them by default.

I would like to avoid making these mistakes. But how do you avoid mistakes you make by default? Ideally you transform your life so it has other defaults. But it may not be possible to do that completely. As long as these mistakes happen by default, you probably have to be reminded not to make them. So I inverted the 5 regrets, yielding a list of 5 commands

Don’t ignore your dreams; don’t work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.

which I then put at the top of the file I use as a todo list.

 

Inspiration From Elon Musk

Are you as determined about your pursuits as he is in this Wired article from 2008?

Wired.com: At the end of the day you’re still zero for three; you have so far failed to put a rocket into orbit.

Musk: We haven’t gotten into orbit, true, but we’ve made considerable progress. If it’s an all-or-nothing proposition then we’ve failed. But it’s not all or nothing. We must get to orbit eventually, and we will. It might take us one, two or three more tries, but we will. We will make it work.

Wired.com: How do you maintain your optimism?

Musk: Do I sound optimistic?

Wired.com: Yeah, you always do.

Musk: Optimism, pessimism, fuck that; we’re going to make it happen. As God is my bloody witness, I’m hell-bent on making it work.

(Thanks Dustin Curtis for the link)

Tackle Your Fears and Do Something Right Now

Today, my little cousin sent me an amazing letter describing some of her recent transformative experiences. I’m very proud of her for conquering her inner fears and acting on her own passions. I wanted to share a quote from her that truly inspired me and hopefully inspires you:

“I had been so inhibited by a fear of failure, by a fear that I’d waste energy on something that I didn’t want to do for the rest of my life. But not having a singular passion isn’t a deficiency. Rather, it is an opportunity to explore so much more. It was okay for me to dabble in quantum mechanics, sociology, and Finnish. I didn’t have to be anything; I just had to do something.”

As she says, at some point, you just have to get on with it. The longer you wait, the less exploring and creating you are doing and will have the opportunity to do. Going from stationary to moving can be hard, but if you overcome your mental barriers, you can accelerate in no time. 

Leaving Things Behind and Starting Anew

I love this. Even after establishing himself as a prominent political pundit, Will Wilkinson is phasing out of politics to get a MFA in creative writing and move into fiction. This quote from his blog entry really resonated with me:

I think the most important thing I took away from all that time with my nose in happiness research and behavioral econ is that we overestimate the value of what we already have and so underestimate the upside of taking a chance, leaving something behind, and making a big change. Most of us end up where we are through a sort of drift. Sometimes that works out splendidly. And drift hasn’t not worked out for me. I really like what I do. But, alas, I don’t really love it. I never wanted to be a pundit or a “public intellectual.” I always wanted to be an artist of some sort and I still want that. I want to make awesome shit people love. It’s my new motto: make awesome shit people love. So here we go!

His actions are a great reminder that you are only in your current situation because you placed yourself there. If you are unsatisfied with your current career (or any life situation), then it is your responsibility to make changes. And it is never too late to pick up and lateral to something new (albeit you should be strategic about this).

Thank you Will for a truly empowering story.

Abundance and Adopting a Sense of Urgency

 

Peter Diamandis, Chairman and CEO of the X-Prize Foundation, expresses his vision for the future in his hopeful TED talk: “We have the potential in the next three decades to create a world of abundance.”

My vision for the future is that everyone in the world can get into the trenches together to tackle the world’s greatest challenges.

I completely agree with Peter. As a human race, we have massive potential to unlock a new world full of opportunities.

But in order to truly change the world, we are going to need to see an unprecedented amount of collaboration between humans everywhere. And that degree of collaboration does not yet exist.  Read more

How to Define Success for Yourself and Make Things Work for You

Recently, I wrote a guest post on defining success for yourself for the Compass Point Mentorship blog. Compass Point Mentorship is a national mentoring nonprofit founded by my good friend, Carl Shan. Check it out:

If your vision of success has been molded by your parents, teachers, or peers this whole time, then you should think long and hard about what you really want. If you do not know and are currently working really hard at something, you are likely pursuing someone else’s dream and not your own.

When it comes down to it, the only sustainable pursuit of success is when you are pursing your own dream. Humans only stay motivated when they are pursuing their own vision of success because then they hold themselves accountable, and that accountability propels them forward.

Are you stuck living out someone else’s dream?

Half Awake

‎”Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake. We are making use of only a small part of our physical and mental resources. Stating the thing broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits. He possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use.”

- William James, a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher.